IS GOD ANGRY AT ME WHEN I SIN?

I’m a father of three beautiful children. My first, Jeddy, is almost seven years old. The second, Peniel, is nearly five, and the third, Shalom, is just two weeks old.

As a father, I have a basic civil duty—to love and care for my children. This includes providing for their physical needs. But beyond that, my greatest responsibility is to make sure they know that I love them.

When should my children begin to understand that I truly love them? When should they realize that I will always be there for them? The answer is: at every stage of their lives. From the moment of conception, through infancy, childhood, teenage years, and into adulthood—they should always be confident in my love.

However, expressing that love must be tailored to each stage of their growth. Does that mean my love increases or decreases depending on their age or behavior? Absolutely not. My love remains constant, even though my expression of it may differ.

The way I show love to Shalom will differ from how I show it to Peniel, and likewise with Jeddy. Let me explain this with a simple example: What if each of them peed on themselves?

Shalom (Newborn – A New Believer) 

If Shalom pees on herself, would I be angry? Of course not. She’s just a baby—she doesn’t know any better. I wouldn’t even think of scolding her. I would clean her up, change her diaper, cuddle her, and even dance with her. Why? Because she’s a baby.

In the same way, new believers are like newborns in Christ. They may still make mistakes and commit sins out of ignorance or immaturity. But their Heavenly Father isn’t angry with them. Instead, He patiently provides what they need to grow—His love, guidance, and the right spiritual environment (like a nurturing church). His goal is for them to mature in faith. Just as a grown man doesn’t pee on himself, God wants His children to grow out of sinful habits.

Imagine a father getting angry at a newborn for peeing. It would make no sense. Likewise, God doesn’t get angry at a new believer’s struggles. His focus is on their growth. As a believer grows, sin will become as unpleasant to them as wet clothes are to a maturing child.

Peniel (Growing Child – A Maturing Believer, Like Peter) 

Now let’s consider Peniel, who is nearly five. He no longer pees on himself regularly. Maybe once every six months, and usually because he’s been too distracted playing. At this point, he knows where the toilet is and understands when to use it. If he occasionally forgets, I don’t get angry. Instead, I gently remind him and continue teaching him to be more aware.

This is like a growing Christian—someone who has left spiritual infancy and is maturing in their walk with God. They don’t live in sin, but occasionally they may fall due to weakness or distraction. Does God get angry? No. Hebrews tells us that we have a High Priest who understands our weaknesses (Hebrews 4:15). Jesus intercedes for us and helps us grow, not by condemning us, but by strengthening us.

Think of Peter, who denied Jesus three times. Though Peter had followed Jesus for years, he still fell. Yet, Jesus wasn’t angry. In fact, He said, “I have prayed for you.” That’s what Jesus still does—He understands our struggles and walks with us through them.

Jeddy (Older Child – A Mature Believer, Like David) 

Now imagine Jeddy, almost seven years old, peeing on himself. My first response wouldn’t be anger—it would be concern. I would ask, “What happened?” because by now, he knows better. And if it turns out that there’s a valid reason—perhaps he couldn’t find a toilet—I would understand.

But what if Jeddy, who is healthy, knowingly peed on himself even when a toilet was nearby? Then, yes, I would be displeased. I would correct him firmly—not because I hate him, but because I want him to understand the seriousness of his actions and avoid bringing shame to himself or others.

Likewise, when a mature Christian—someone who teaches, leads, and knows God deeply—willfully commits sin, God is displeased. Not in a human, angry outburst, but with righteous grief. Think of David. He was a man after God’s heart, yet he committed adultery and murder. God forgave him, but there were serious consequences. God expected more from him because David had received so much.

 Conclusion 

As a Christian, God’s desire is for you to grow into the image of Christ—in your words, your thoughts, and your actions. You are not called to live like an unbeliever. You are called to grow.

Know this: The God who began this good work in you will carry it on to completion (Philippians 1:6). He loves you deeply. His correction is not rejection—it is proof of His love and desire to see you become all He created you to be.

God loves you.